delphipsmith | (Reply)

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Both this and your other comment made me laugh aloud. :))

Interesting article, that, although a bit one-sided in not considering the male point of view, which would I think obviate the need for feminist soul-searching. If liberated women aren't supposed to enjoy submission, what of men who do? And a dom friend of mine once told me that he enjoyed BDSM scenes because it allowed him to play with those expectations of dominant masculinity that are at odds with a culture of equality.

Generally, perhaps it's just part of the human condition that the need to be independent doesn't sit well with the desire to merge. Mix gender inequality into that and it's not surprising that people react sexually to dominance and/or submission.

Aside from that, she confirmed all my prejudices about the book (haven't read it, wouldn't mind looking so I can judge for myself but unwilling to pay for it, and my housemate who does have a copy only has a Kindle version I can't borrow).

What I'd really like is for one of these mainstream media folk to post some links to some good erotic fanfiction. But then they'd have to admit to reading it without being able to pretend it was only to sneer.