I've Gone to Look for America

9 August 2025 12:10 am
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And a happy 60th, Singapore. There's a lot I miss about those days.


Way down at the remotest end of Gotham City, Six Flags America edition, are Superman: Ride of Steel and Batwing. Superman: Ride of Steel is a 200-foot-tall Intamin coaster, twin to the one we'd ridden at Darien Lake. (We didn't know that going in, but had reason to suspect it.) Batwing is a 115-foot-tall Vekoma flying coaster, one where you lie down on your back, backwards, to ascend the lift hill, worrying all the time that your keys are falling out your pocket. I didn't know that going in, but Batwing is a twin of the Firehawk ride that was at Kings Island for a decade-plus, closed in 2018 to make way for Orion. Unfortunately, when we first approached this area we saw a couple park employees outside Superman, explaining the ride was closed for now. Batwing was also roped off, with a sign that it would open at 12pm. It was already 1:15. We figured to come back later, and would.

Meanwhile the other coaster we hadn't ridden was in the steampunk town, a recent repainting and retheming of the Western area. There wasn't anything punk about it, just a lot of brown gears. The roller coaster there was Professor Screamore's SkyWinder, which has a couple canvas hot-air-bags to tell you what the Prof was up to. Until the steampunk renovation the ride was called Mind Eraser, like 25% of all roller coasters at Six Flags parks, and it's a twin to Michigan's Adventure's Thunderhawk / Six Flags Mexico's Batman The Ride / Canada's Wonderland's Flight Deck / Elitch Gardens's Mind Eraser / Darien Lake's Mind Eraser. My recollection is the restraints were less head-bangy this one, but I don't know how they could manage that given the kind of ride it was. Maybe we were just more in tune with the flow of the ride.

While in the steampunk area we passed SteamWhirler, their new ride and maybe their newest flat ride. It's a NebulaZ, made by Zamperla, cars set on the ends of four pendulums that are themselves arranged at 90 degree angles around the center pole. The pendulums rotate so that they look like they're about to collide, but thanks to them all being on the same gear they always avoid hitting. The center pole also rotates and it's this wonderful, hypnotic, clockwork operation. We did not ride, this time, because it was closed for something or other. But we made a note to check back in case it was working again.

After this, a break, in the big cafeteria with some pop and then some more pop and finding how many things were just a little wrong on their various posters about their history. After that, we'd take the occasional peek in the direction of Superman: Ride of Steel to see if anything was going on the lift hill, and re-ride things we hadn't got enough of. The carousel, for example, or The Wild One, where I think we got both front- and back-seat rides that didn't take any great wait. Much like the evening before the park wasn't too busy and I don't remember that we had any substantial waits.

We finally saw Ride of Steel running again and made our way over. By the time we were there there wasn't much of a line, again, so we took the extra cycle or two to get a front seat ride. I believe it was this ride that, at the top of the lift hill, some guys behind us cried out, ``Death death death to the IDF!'' Didn't expect that.

Expected, although still a not genuinely welcome surprise: the storm. It was around this time that the taller rides started shutting, and then the distant sound of thunder confirmed everything was going down. Rides did go on longer than I'd have expected from Cedar Point experiences, but not much longer; rain was coming in, and pretty heavy at that. We got to the bathroom and then the cafeteria to wait things out in reasonable dryness.

While we waited --- I've mentioned --- I did my best to contact my brother and get a tolerably firm plan in mind for meeting up the next day. I think we made things more complicated by suggesting we meet up somewhere for lunch and then he went looking for a vegetarian- or vegetarian-friendly restaurant where we'd have been fine with, like, meeting up at Jersey Mike's.

Eventually the rain did recede, and we re-emerged into the park. The first thing we saw running was the SkyWinder, although we weren't sure when we did go past it that it was actually operating and not just doing test cycles. Or training cycles: there were a bunch of people in the control booth, compared to the one you'd expect a ride this size to need, and many of them left at once. We didn't quite get a private ride on this --- someone else joined --- although that was reassuring that we weren't putting the staff to trouble just for us. Also, SkyWinder is a much more fun ride than we'd thought. It seems like it would just be a sideways rise and fall, but there's more angles of rotation than you expect, and it's just speedy enough to be delightful without being intense. We kept chuckling all the way through it and agreeing that this was a really solid ride; I believe the stranger on the ride with us also said the same. So that was a nice discovery.

As the weather allowed, more rides started to open, and we hopped onto Roar soon as that was available. We looked at the Flying Carousel --- a swings ride --- but didn't get on. And got back to The Wild One for another ride, on the way to returning to Ride of Steel and to Batwing. Ride of Steel was there and back to working fine. Batwing, however, was not, and given the hour we didn't expect it would come back. This suggested we would need to plan to come back to Six Flags America the next day, for one last try at the last of the park's nine roller coasters.

I don't have my usual photograph log of everything we did to close out the day at the park. Probably included a last ride on The Wild One and another on the carousel, the one with the fiberglass animals of strange paintings. And some time in the gift shop, trying to find if there were shirts or other merchandise that we felt like taking home to remember the park. We were back to our apartment and its nice potent air conditioning, against the heat and humidity of the evening, and we had our plan for Wednesday laid out.


I left you at the Michigan's Adventure Scare-ousel on Closing Day. How's that looking now? Like this.

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Here's the ride operator still giving instructions but now it looks like he's scolding the tiger and sea dragon.


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Told you this was the Scare-ousel. I think the rat skeleton is new but what am I going to do, look back earlier this week to see?


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And there's the foot on the dead-man's switch, plus a good-operations banner that you'd think the ride would have somewhere better to hang.


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Someone helping an inflatable chicken costume get together.


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And a pack of kids going over to Trunk-or-Treating and looking confused by everything.


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Well, here's [personal profile] bunnyhugger getting to be a three-headed dog riding a rabbit.


Trivia: Jim Lovell's A-7L spacesuit for the Apollo 13 moonwalks was the first to have red stripes on the suit to make it possible to distinguish him from Fred Haise in surface photographs. It was noticed after Apollo 11 that it was impossible to tell Armstrong from Aldrin in pictures, and there was not time to add stripes to Pete Conrad's suit for Apollo 12. Source: Lunar Outfitters: Making the Apollo Space Suit, Bill Ayrey. I have never understood how there wasn't time to add a stripe to Apollo 12. You'd think they could tie a bandana around the boot or something.

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Last day here

8 August 2025 11:40 pm
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I got up at 10 for a change, and had breakfast and coffee, then showered and washed my hair, and dressed.

I called Airport taxi and arranged for them to pick me up at 11:00 tomorrow. I'll get up at 8:00 and finish getting ready. Then I went upstairs and packed my suitcase as well as I could. I still have to put the stuff I'm wearing, and my meds and toiletries in it.

I didn't do much else for awhile. Then eventually Linda came by and said she and Sue were going to the beach, so I got on my bathing suit which I hadn't packed yet because I figured we might be doiing the beach today, and met Linda at the stairs. WE made our way down, and were shortly joined by Sue and Otis, her dog.

Didn't do any floating. We sat and talked and watched the waves, and threw sticks for Otis, and eventually I did wade in above my knees, just to say I'd been in.

We came back up, and I sat on the porch and called the Kid, who didn't answer, so I texted her. No reply. I called Duane Reade again, ended up on hold again, and gave up.

At 7:00 I Teamed the FWiB. I won't be seeing much of him for the next few days as his sisters are coming to visit him and he'll be busy. We talked for a nice long time despite some technical difficulties.

After we finished I went down to Linda's and sat with her and Alan and Sue and watched episodes of Wednesday, which I had never seen. I like it, I may start watching it.

Then I came back here and had dinner, and popcorn, and did some sweeping and cleaning.

And then I started here.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. Airport taxi remembered me from when I last used them, two years ago.

3. I've been here two weeks.

4. Interesting TV.

5. My cousins.

6. Popcorn.

Sidewise Award Announcement

8 August 2025 06:21 pm
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The Sidewise Award for Alternate History is looking for new judges to join the award committee.

This is the first time in the 30 year history of the award that they've made an open call for awards judges.

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Apple CEO Tim Cook presented Trump With a glass statue with a gold base, gets tariff break.

I really hope Timmy Boy wasn't stupid and the base is actually gold plated. He could probably afford to give tRump real gold but what's the point? tRump could turn around and pull the tariff break at any time.

So I guess bribery is completely legal now - if yo9're bribing tRump.

I hope tRump does pull the tariff break. They're both assholes.

Anyways, older Apple desktops and laptops work great with Linux or with Open Core Legacy Patcher. Work was tossing out 15 old Macbook Pro laptops (mostly from the 2010- 2012) and I resurrected 8 of them with more RAM, SSD hard drives and Open Core Legacy Patcher. The others were too damaged to waste my time on. I donated 7 of them to my church. They're a little pokey but for cruising the web, office stuff and other light usage they're just fine.

Repair and reuse!
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The Blacksmith Queen

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When a librarian moves to a quaint Irish village where her favorite novelist lives, the last thing she expects is to fall for the author’s prickly son… until their story becomes one for the books, from the New York Times bestselling author of Summer Reading.

Emily Allen, a librarian on Martha’s Vineyard, has always dreamed of a life of travel and adventure. So when her favorite author, Siobhan Riordan, offers her a job in the Emerald Isle, Emily jumps at the opportunity. After all, Siobhan’s novels got Em through some of the darkest days of her existence.

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The Groom List

The Groom List by Ella Quinn is $2.99! This one, as of right now, is also another Amazon-only discount. This is book three in The Worthington Brides historical romance series.

In a Season filled with surprises, the irrepressible Worthingtons welcome thrilling new love matches into their lively extended family . . .

Intelligent. Kind. Must like children. Passable looks. A man of means. Must make us laugh . . .
For Lady Alice Carpenter, these are some of the “musts” on the checklist for eligible bachelors compiled with her sisters as they husband-hunt among the ton. Yet when she encounters a striking nobleman on her morning ride in Hyde Park, Alice soon tallies another list of first impressions . . .

Shallow. Flirtatious. Without seriousness of purpose. Impossible to avoid . . .
Gifford, the Marquis of St. Albans, must wed in order to wrest his estate from his controlling father. How hard could it be to snag a suitable match? Waltzing with lovely Lady Alice at the Season’s whirl of balls and soirees however, defies Giff’s expectations: his dance moves are smooth but their small talk is excruciating—he offers up gossip sheet tidbits while she interrogates him on his charitable works—or lack thereof!

Charming. Amusing. Irresistible . . . A disastrous idea?
Alice is willing to entertain the possibility that there is more to the man than meets the eye—though what meets the eye is quite attractive. But when Giff’s true character is tested, she realizes it takes more than a list to reveal the heart of a worthy and honorable gentleman . . .

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All the Kings Men bundle by Kennedy Ryan is $2.51 at Amazon and $2.99 elsewhere! This collects the first two book in the All the King’s Men series, which follows the same couple. There’s also a bonus epilogue.

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In a world of haves and have-nots, Maxim Cade’s family and their oil empire have it all…and he wants nothing to do with it. At odds with his mogul father, he’s determined to build his own empire, even if it means traveling far from home, painted as the black sheep.

Lennix Hunter is the exception to every one of Maxim’s rules. At a protest for the oil pipeline that threatens to mar her ancestral land forever, they meet in a flurry of stars and sparks, and that one moment changes everything. But Maxim’s family is the one stealing from hers, and his father is the man she hates most. He has to lie in order to have her once, and despite the truth, he’ll do anything to keep her.

Even though Lennix tries to hate Maxim, too, their hearts are pointed in the same direction. The inexorable pull between them, across miles and years, will not be denied.

And neither will Maxim.

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Though surrender is what Maxim Cade demanded of Lennix Hunter’s body and heart, she had other plans. They were fast-burning fascination and combustible chemistry, the son of an oil baron and the Apache daughter at war with his family, but she trusted him, and he turned out to be a thief who stole her love.

Still, if what they had was a lie, why had it felt so real?

Now, the man she swore to hate is about to have it all, and he wants Lennix at his side. But when the two of them are forced to face the unthinkable, their rocky foundation is tested, as is the invisible thread that seems to wind their fates together. As they navigate a treacherous political landscape in their quest for justice, Maxim and Lennix soon learn that power is a game, and they are merely the pawns and players. Facing insurmountable odds, will they win the world, or will they lose it all?

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Humans are too brief and fragile to travel the depths of space in person. We can send machines, but it's still agonizingly slow at sub-light speeds.

We can try to reach intelligent aliens with radio waves or lasers or similar, but the dialogue would still be too slow.

There must be a better way to exchange information. We can assume it's already been invented by other intelligence that evolved before us, so when we do discover this communication channel, we can assume it's stuffed with information. Perhaps so much that it looks like noise to us.

Whatever it is, it must somehow be able to transcend light speed if it's going to happen in a timely way. I mean, we could just assume humans are permanently too brief and give up, and accept that the dialogue of the universe is too slow for us to hear, but that would suck.

So we start looking at the chaos in random movements of particles at the extremely microscopic level. It's so full of noise... Perhaps that noise is communication that can be decrypted?

That doesn’t work. So instead, we make an assumption about the fundamental nature of aliens. We hypothesize that the creatures we might communicate with live on some different plane of existence. For example, in fifth or sixth dimensional space. All their dialogue is happening on some kind of side channel that isn't subject to the vast separations of distance in the universe we observe.

Perhaps these aliens observe our four-dimensional environment as we might observe the workings of an ant colony with a window installed in it: We can watch all the ants at once, and exert our influence by moving material or even ants from one area to another, or tinkering with the glass to install shortcuts or bridges.

In film, this was most recently explored in the movie Interstellar. Humanity is apparently shown how to manipulate space by being given information due to the interference of beings with power outside the constraints of our four dimensional world. They poked holes in space and sent signals from the future to the past, allowing us to collect vital information to build universe-altering technology.

A less ambitious movie from a few years previous, called “Knowing”, used a variation on this theme where aliens provided humans with a mysterious message that turned out to contain predictions about the future, which the aliens could only obtain by having some kind of extra dimensional existence, and used it to compel the humans to act in a way where samples of them (along with samples of other living creatures) could be collected and taken off the planet - rescuing them - before a massive solar flare burned it clean.

They messed with history just enough to preserve bits of us at the end, perhaps out of some kind of curiosity.

But what if the aliens communicated through some means that was simultaneously more indirect, but also more powerful? And what if the aliens were not communicating with us at all, but rather communicating with each other, and we just happened to learn how to eavesdrop on their conversation?

Let's get bigger: What if our planet, or our galaxy, or our entire universe, was actually being used by an extra dimensional intelligence to store a message, while it was being delivered somewhere else?

Like a splash of watercolor on a paper eventually drying into a shape that we can interpret, what if our entire universe is merely a drop of explosive matter, very carefully deployed so that it eventually dries into the permanent form of a message, after all this crazy gravitational business settles down at the heat death of the universe billions of years from now?

What if the whole point of everything we see around us, is to eventually arrive at this dead image, and after the message is interpreted by the recipient, this entire document - our entire universe - will be crumpled up and recycled?

We wouldn't stand the tiniest chance of understanding what the message is about. We wouldn't even stand a chance of seeing all but a tiny fraction of the message as it's being written, since light only travels so fast.

But in the meantime, if humans escaped the confines of the solar system and began to terraform and rearrange the stars in the galaxy ... followed by other galaxies ... would the aliens observe this, and interpret us as some kind of defect in the medium? Mold on the paper? A rare but annoying quality control problem?

At best we would be examined by alien engineers in order to better understand why their messaging system is corrupting data.

Assuming they care enough to even try communicating with creatures so inconsequential, wouldn’t they actually find it easier to rearrange entire chunks of our history, rather than bother engaging with any of us in actual language? Of course, even that would be too subtle for them to bother. Our own human history? Our own documents? Why would they care?

Whatever they do to us, it probably couldn't even be seen as language. You may as well try to communicate with a single molecule of ink using your pen. What could you even do but write? What could a molecule of ink do, that comes close to "understanding"?

This leads to some interesting plot twists:

1. Intelligent life used to be rampant in the universe, but the aliens applied a bunch of error correction. We're only here because of all the weird exceptions: Goldilocks zone, moon, gas giants, stable galaxy, etc. If we don't stay quiet we might get error-corrected out.

(A variation on this with in-universe aliens was recently explored in The Three Body Problem.)

2. With the right technology we can leap out of our own universe and into another, because the documents are stacked on a metaphorical desk.

3. Careful examination from nearby worlds reveals horrible astrophysical inconsistencies. This document has been used at least once already, and not completely "erased".

4. We start exploring, and find that the laws of physics bend completely out of shape just beyond our local galaxies. The light that's reaching us, showing other galaxies, is a remnant from when the document was whole. It's since been ... torn up. We're in the midst of being recycled.

5. Lots of fancypants computing and off-the-wall thinking allows us to interpret some of the message as it will eventually read when the ink is "dry" (when the universe is dead). We project it into 2d space and it turns out to be a picture of Douglas Adams.

Has this ever happened to you?

16 June 2025 12:23 am
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So this morning, I had a dream where I was watching a made-for-TV movie that was being broadcast even though it had run out of budget about 2/3 of the way through filming.

It concerned a middle-school girls' basketball team, who had won some kind of vacation in a contest and was going around a tropical island solving a mystery. But in every scene, the entire team took part. Usually the dialogue started with whichever girl arrived in the room first, and continued as other girls streamed into the room until it was almost full. Whoever they were interrogating would always refer to them collectively, as “you girls”, and when they discussed the case amongst themselves they would never use each other’s names, and just pick another girl indiscriminately to have dialogue with.

And the entire time, some of the girls would be waving their hands up and down at waist level, sometimes constantly, sometimes for just a few seconds. The director had told them to do this because they were going to add in CGI basketballs later, to make it look like they were constantly dribbling and passing basketballs. But the money had run out.

I dreamed a scene where they talked to a shopkeeper, and the shop was packed with girls in uniforms jostling around by the time the scene ended, with more team members still crowding in.

Analysis anyone?

679. RT Rewind: July 2016 Reviews

8 August 2025 06:00 am
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Smart Podcast Trashy Books Romantic Times RewindWe’re back!

Amanda picked this month’s issue and so we are journeying back to July 2016!

We tackle vague reviews that tell us no things.

I try to coin a new portmanteau!

We come up with the most unhinged romance bingo squares ever – tell us if we should use them!

We have some plot summaries that are a RIDE, folks.

Hop into our newly refurbished time machine – we needed a bigger drinks fridge – and let’s look at the July 2016 new releases!

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A brief date with Кэндис

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I met Кэндис for a nice outdoor Thai breakfast, the morning after sleeping over at Кэролайн's place for the first (and last) time.  I was skeptical because she was over ten years younger than me, and invited me out after only a few lines of online chat, saying that she preferred to "cut to the chase" and meet in person to gauge chemistry.

She was short, with curvy black hair just past her shoulders, and a round face. She wore bluejeans and a light sweater that accentuated her curves tastefully, and I was slightly disoriented by the age difference from the start because she looked like she fit in with all the other college students at the Thai place. The idea of dating someone still in college felt a bit dangerous to me.

We started off well, agreeing to wait in separate lines and buy two of each thing to cut the time in half, setting up across from each other at a little wooden picnic bench, and crooning over the amazing food. The first topic we settled on was summer adventures, and she enthusiastically listened to my tales of Alaska and Idaho.  She told me all about Burning Man and her weird social awakening there, falling in with a crowd of older men.  I surmised that while among them she had developed a taste for older men, hence her interest in me.

Attraction isn't straightforward, and most of the time people are just working with whoever appears in their path. But a skeptical person, seeing an older man and a younger woman together, would say the age difference alone was proof the participants had crappy priorities. Why would an older man like me entertain a younger woman if not for her body, since her personality would be less formed? Why would a younger woman entertain an older man, if not for his relative experience and power, since his body would be weathered and slow? It's all fertility on one side and money on the other.

Well, I can't agree with that misanthropic view. But I have to admit, some of my own experience - especially recently - has conjured a watered-down version of it in my head:

I feel like I've gotten confirmation of something I'd always suspected while dating in college: Some younger women target older men as dating partners because they feel overqualified to date someone their own age, based on "maturity". They might declare it like, "All the guys my age are macho, sex-crazed trash. Why waste my time? Older men treat me with the respect I deserve." ... But then they can walk into a situation where an older man is putting up with their worst personality traits for the sake of their sex appeal, giving them the perfect opportunity to fall behind in maturity, just as the men in their age group are catching up.

Then they enter their 30's and are confused to find that the men their age are now the ones complaining about maturity and respect. At least, the ones not dating college girls...

It's not a huge pattern. It's not a lot of men and women. But it's an explanation, at least, for the way some of these people I'm dating are behaving. And I was getting the solid impression that Кэндис was in this group, and expected me to act the complementary part, like she was the fertility idol and I was the horny gentleman. Someone only a bit less skeptical than the usual skeptic would say I was reading this into our conversation just because it's so plausible. ... I don't know; maybe?

But Кэндис kept teeing up opportunities for me to praise her sexual adventurousness at Burning Man and beyond, and mentioning her body, lingerie, and tattoos, as though she expected the focus to be there. I kept veering away to talk about culture or ideas, and found that the only thing she really responded to were travel stories that we could compare. She asked what I did for a living, and made a weird effort to be unimpressed by it, then started an inventory of Silicon Valley companies, pointing out that she'd dated at least one man from each, and tried to make general statements about what guys from each company tended to be like. I thought she was joking at first, but she took it seriously. In the end she gave me faint praise by saying that the company I worked for had the best dating potential, though she had most recently been involved with someone outside the industry, and from another country.

I set her Silicon Valley opinions aside and asked, "Oh? How did that go?"

"Well actually it's still going on," she said.

She told me about how she'd fallen for a French exchange student, despite "not wanting to," when he almost literally swept her off her feet at a dance party. She invited him home and over the next few weeks he convinced her to let him sleep at her place long-term, somewhere between a housemate and a couch-surfer, even though she "hadn't really wanted him to." They quickly got in bed together and into a relationship, which was currently ongoing, even though she "wasn't really interested in him."

"So really, what's happening right now is, I'm looking for someone to distract me from this guy, so maybe I can end things with him," she said.

I couldn't help poking at the subtext. "Well, if he wanted to climb into your bed, you could have said no, right? I mean, it's your house, your bed, your romantic life."

"I wanted to say no, but I couldn't. He was just so charming."

"So, part of you wanted to say no ... but it was overruled by the rest of you, which said yes!"

I figured this wouldn't a controversial way of putting it. We often have mixed feelings about people we date. But she became suddenly angry.

"I wanted to say no!"

"Was he threatening you or something?"

"... He was just really charming!"

"So you said yes to this guy because he was charming."

"I never said yes! I didn't want to date him!"

"What?" I laughed. "Then how did he end up in your bed?"

"I don't know, it just happened!" she yelled.

I was taken aback, but also annoyed, so I didn't back down. "It sounds like you're describing yourself as a hapless victim in your own romantic life, when you actually made plenty of choices along the way."

"Well it sounds like you're judging me and telling me what I should think! And I don't have to deal with this. In fact I don't see you as dating material anyway so we should just end this date right now," she yelled.

Abruptly she stood up and grabbed her purse, and walked away, leaving her dishes at the table.

I watched her back as she went, my emotions shading from disorientation to a weird kind of amusement. What had just happened? After a minute or so, I went back to my meal, then moved my dishes and hers to the cleaning bins. Maybe by challenging her I overstepped my bounds as the tolerant horny older man or something.

That was obviously the last we saw of each other. Later - a year later at least - she tried to claim me as a co-worker on "LinkedIn". I rolled my eyes and deleted the request.

I'm the King of Jing-a-Ling

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This week my humor blog reached a milestone, something we've been waiting for for a year now. Want to see what it was? Or just to see me say something different about Compu-Toon? Here's what you've missed:


Now in pictures? We're off to ... Tricks-and-Treats at Michigan's Adventure! But this is different in that it's closing day of the season! We had something that never happened to us before that day at the park. Plus we both went in kigurumi. I wore Stitch's Girlfriend Angel, and [personal profile] bunnyhugger wore ...

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Cerberus! The first time she's gone to a park while three-headed. People loved it. Since no rides with an over-the-shoulder restraint were running this was fine to wear. (I used Angel rather than the red panda because Angel's tail would fit under a seat in a way the red panda's could not possibly.)


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It was only maybe two weeks after our previous visit but already autumn had got much more advanced. The park really shines this time of year.


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Why, the leaves are even trying to match the purple pennants!


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Here's the path to Mad Mouse, long ago the main midway for the park and now just kind of there.


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We didn't catch the One-Room Ghoulhouse during a story time this visit. Did get these skeletons doing farm warm, though.


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Also we finally saw this little stage with performers! We ended up hanging out the rest of the show, partly by virtue of being the four or five-person nucleus around whom the crowd gathered.


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Nice little monster tree hanging out in front of the Tilt-a-Whirl.


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They had a Mummy Pizza as one of the meal options and yeah, it wasn't bad. The sauce on the side is ranch that I used to spruce up the crust.


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Skeletons rooting you on to the log flume that's closed for the season anyway.


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And now, the carousel. Or Scare-ousel, since it was running backward.


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Many people were in costume, not just us, so we had some comfortable cover. The food stall on the left has been rebuilt since last year and now there's a solid, windowless wall there.


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Ride operator giving instructions to the riders on the Scare-ousel.


Trivia: For the close of the 1949-1950 season, the NBC Symphony Orchestra took a six-week tour of the United States, travelling in a twelve-car train with Arturo Toscanini (then 83 years old) and his 106 musicians. The largest crowd, twelve thousand people, gathered in Cleveland. Source: The Mighty Music Box: The Golden Age of Musical Radio, Thomas A DeLong.

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7 August 2025 10:55 pm
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Slept til 11:45 again, finally got up and had breakfast and coffee. Was just finishing up when Linda came by and said she was going to Tops and did I want to come. I said yes, but needed to put on clothes cause I was still in my nightgown. She said OK, and I went and got dressed.

She met me at her cottage and we went in, I needed something to drink for the next two days as I finished my Vernor's yesterday. I got a bottle of Brisk iced tea, which I figure should be just about the the right amount. I also got some thing for [personal profile] mashfanficchick, because it was there and I like to get zer something when I come up here, and I'm not saying what it is because ze reads this.

Anyway, we came back and I went back to the cottage and I forget what I did until I thought that I really should transplant those ferns if I was going to.

So I went back to Linda's and borrowed a trowel and dug up the little ferns that Betsy said I could have. I put them by the trillium where hopefully they'll root and be happy.

Then I sat on the porch and was reading. I finished Into the Water, which is a satisfying read, and I started something totally different, The Cats of Tanglewood Forest by Charles de Lint.

I was just starting it when who should appear but my cousin Janet. We sat on the porch and had a very nice visit. When she had to leave, it was just about 6:00ish.

I got a phone call from Duane Reade which as usual I didn't answer but now I wish I had. It was a real person, not an automated message saying it was about my prescriptions and I should call them back.

So I tried. But I was on hold for half an hour, and then I gave up. If they call back I'll answer, and I'll try again tomorrow.

Anyway, by then it was time to Team the FWiB, so I did. We had a nice talk. At 8:30 as usual I called Middle Brother. Nothing much to report on his end, all is well.

After that I decided to check out if there was any sort of sunset, and if anyone was watching it, but there wasn't, and no one was. So I decided to return Linda's trowel.

I went down, and they were just watching the end of something. Sue was there so I asked if I could join them and I did. We sat and talked for awhile, then Sue decided to go home to bed, and Linda said she'd walk the dog with her so I went too, and we walked Sue back to her cottage.

Then Linda and I walked back and I said good night, and had dinner. Then I made popcorn and had that, and then I read for awhile.

And now I'm starting here.

Gratitude List:

1. The FWiB.

2. Got stuff at Tops.

3. My cousins.

4. Saw Janet.

5. Transplanted the ferns.

6. Middle Brother is doing well.

The Old World Character Generation

7 August 2025 09:30 pm
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More details later but it seems the group is essentially Don Quixote in the form of a Brettonian knight's bastard who has completely bought into chivalric ideals despite the fact no true knight considers him worthy to have such ideals, and an assortment of hangers-on who see him as a meal ticket.

Which is to say, the group is centred on someone who will seek out adventure.

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The Lady Gets Lucky

The Lady Gets Lucky by Joanna Shupe is $1.99! This was mentioned in a previous Hide Your Wallet and is the second book in the Fifth Avenue Rebels. For the most part, I love Shupe’s pairings, but a lot of the secondary characters, usually parents, are just awful people and can make for a frustrating read.

Following The Heiress Hunt, beloved author Joanna Shupe continues her new Fifth Avenue Rebels series with a scandalous romance about a good girl desperate to rebel and the rebel desperate to corrupt her.

A first-rate scoundrel.

A desperate wallflower.

Lessons in seduction.

The woman no one notices . . .

Shy heiress Alice Lusk is tired of being overlooked by every bachelor. Something has to change, else she’ll be forced to marry a man whose only desire is her fortune. She needs to become a siren, a woman who causes a man’s blood to run hot . . .and she’s just met the perfect rogue to help teach her.

He’s the life of every party . . .

Christopher “Kit” Ward plans to open a not-so-reputable supper club in New York City, and he’s willing to do whatever it takes to hire the best chef in the city to guarantee its success. Even if it requires giving carnal lessons to a serious-minded spinster who has an in with the chef.

Their bedroom instruction grows passionate, and Alice is a much better pupil than Kit had ever anticipated. When the Society gentlemen start to take notice, Kit has to try to win Alice in other ways . . . but is he too late to win her heart?

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Collide

Collide by Bal Khabra is $1.99! This is the first book in a New Adult series with hockey player heroes. I think this was originally self-pubbed and got popular on BookTok before being picked up by Berkley, but I’m not 100% confident in that.

She’s an honors student with ambitious graduate school plans and he’s a jock with only hockey on his mind, but once their worlds collide, their connection is hot enough to melt an ice rink.

An ultimatum from Summer Preston’s thesis advisor thrusts her into an unexpected collision with the hockey team’s captain, Aiden Crawford. She’s caught between conflicting desires of fulfilling her lifelong dream of becoming a sport psychologist and staying as far away as possible from the god-awful sport. And once she meets Aiden—well, let’s just say he confirms all her worst assumptions about hockey players.

Being the captain of the college hockey team has its perks, except when a reckless mistake by Aiden’s team threatens to jeopardize their entire season. As punishment, Aiden’s coach nominates him as the subject of a student research project. Participating is the last thing he wants to do, especially since the girl leading the project looks like she could wield his skates as a weapon.

Summer can’t stand Aiden’s blasé approach to life, and Aiden doesn’t understand why she’s twenty years old with a twenty-five-year plan. But their bickering soon turns to bantering—and once they let their guards down, there’s nothing to check their feelings.

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Damned If I Duke

Damned If I Duke by Anna Bradley is $2.99! This is book two in the Drop Dead Dukes series and features a marriage of convenience.

Bold and adventurous, Prudence Thorne is not the kind of woman to stand by meekly when someone she loves has been wronged. And she’s quite certain that Jasper Vincent, Duke of Montford, somehow duped her father into racking up enormous gambling debts. When fate offers her a chance to blackmail Jasper into forgiving her father’s losses, she seizes it . . . only to have her scheme backfire.

Jasper enjoys London’s illicit delights too much to wed. Too bad his grandfather has decided that a woman with the nerve to blackmail might be exactly the sort of wife to tame him. Pressed into a marriage neither wanted—and fighting a desire neither expected—Prue and Jasper torment and tempt each other beyond reason.

Surely a proper duchess should be subdued, obedient, and dignified? Yet just as he begins to get his wish, Jasper realizes how much he wants his unconventional wife—and only her—if it’s not too late to win her . . .

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Colton Gentry’s Third Act

Colton Gentry’s Third Act by Jeff Zentner is $2.99! I mentioned this one in a previous Get Rec’d. This one seems like it’ll pack an emotional punch.

“A story of love, healing, and second chances ” (Emily Henry) following a down on his luck country musician who, in the throes of grief after a shocking loss, moves back home and rekindles a relationship with his high school sweetheart, from award-winning author Jeff Zentner.

Colton Gentry is riding high. His first hit in nearly a decade has caught fire, he’s opening for country megastar Brant Lucas, and he’s married to one of the hottest acts in the country. But he’s hurting. Only a few weeks earlier, his best friend, Duane, was murdered onstage by a mass shooter at a country music festival. One night, with his trauma festering and Jim Beam flowing through his veins, Colton stands before a sold-out arena crowd of country music fans and offers his unfiltered opinion on guns. It goes over poorly.

Immediately, his career and marriage implode. Left with few choices or funds, he retreats to his rural Kentucky hometown. He’s resigned himself to has-been-dom, until a chance encounter at his town’s new farm-to-table restaurant gives him a second shot at a job working in the kitchen with Luann, his first love, who has undergone her own reinvention. Told through perspectives alternating between his senior year of high school, his time coming up with Duane as hungry musicians in Nashville, and the present, COLTON GENTRY’S THIRD ACT is a story of coming home, undoing past heartbreaks, and navigating grief, and is a reminder that there are next acts in life, no matter how unlikely they may seem.

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